When I started finding ways to further simplify my life, I began paying attention to the moon phases.
Not for any religious or spiritual reasons, but simply because the idea of living according to monthly cycles makes sense to me.
Sure, I could just set monthly goals.
But how awesome is it to have a constant, nightly reminder of where I'm supposed to be and what I'm supposed to be focusing on.
Seriously, I don't have to set reminders or alarms or calendar events or anything.
There is literally a giant ball of light in the night sky that reminds me where I am in my monthly goals and life cycles.
Pretty stinking cool.
Setting Intentions with the New Moon
Every new moon is the beginning of a new cycle. And with each new cycle comes new goals, desires, and opportunities.
So we set intentions at this time.
What do I want to work towards in this new moon cycle? What do I want to accomplish? How do I want to grow?
Setting my intentions, at first, came very easily to me. New years and coming up with resolutions is one of my all time favorite things, so it was no surprise that I took so quickly to this aspect of the moon cycle.
Every cycle I set my intentions, make my plans, do the work, and reap the benefits.
Most of the time
When our intentions fail
Just like with new years resolutions, there are times when our intentions fall flat. There are times when we just don't see them come to fulfillment like we'd wanted.
Did I not do the work? Did I not do it correctly? Did I lose my focus somewhere along the way?
Getting to the end of a cycle, or even coming up on the full moon, and realizing that I've not accomplished what you've set out to do can be very disheartening. It's discouraging.
And it's easy to feel like a failure.
So what do I do?
My first several cycles, my first inclination was to set the same intentions each cycle. If I failed one cycle, I would just try again the next cycle.
Makes sense, right? If at first you don't succeed, try, try again?
But when I continued to fail, month after month, I decided there must be a better way.
And there is.
And there's a reason for it.
When to let go of your intentions
Now, if you are certain that your intentions failed simply because you didn't do the work or lost your focus, hanging on to them for one more cycle could be beneficial.
But in most cases, I find that it's best to let them go.
I did not say give up.
Letting go is essential so that we can be open to receive.
Each new cycle brings with it new opportunities, new growth, new energies, and new lessons to be learned. And sometimes our intentions just don't align with that.
When our intentions fail, it's not because of anything you did wrong, it's simply because those lessons or areas of growth aren't meant for you right now. Those weren't the lessons that cycle had for you.
Setting your intentions can sometimes feel like writing a wishlist of desires you have for your life and spirit. But instead, we need to be open to receive guidance in our intentions, get in tune with ourselves, and be aligned with what is meant for us.
When we grip too tightly to our failed intentions, becoming determined to achieve them at all costs, refusing to let them go, we risk missing the lessons and opportunities that are meant for us.
Be open to Receive
Just because a lesson or opportunity isn't mean for you right now, doesn't mean it never will be. Things will come in their own time.
But as you set your intentions, don't hold on to them so tightly that you aren't open to what each new cycle has for you.
And if you fail?